We are Christy and Meade, senior coaches and founders of The Missing Peace. We’ve dedicated our lives to helping thousands of women, just like you, find freedom from alcohol. This space is your personal invitation to experience the transformative, faith-based support you’ve been longing for.
Welcome to The Missing Peace
At The Missing Peace, we offer something truly unique—a powerful combination of Scripture, neuroscience, and practical coaching. This isn’t just about quitting alcohol. It’s about deep, soul-level renewal, rediscovering who you are, and stepping into the fullness of life that’s waiting for you on the other side of your nightly drinking routine.
Imagine breaking free—not just from the wine but from the deep-seated emotional and spiritual barriers that have held you back for far too long. Our intimate, nurturing community provides a safe, faith-centered space for you to explore, heal, and grow—rooted in both Biblical wisdom and scientific insight.
Why The Missing Peace Is Unlike Anything You've Tried Before
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Why This Opportunity Is
You’re not just joining another coaching program. You’re stepping into a faith-centered sisterhood that fully understands your struggles and celebrates your wins.
Our weekly live coaching calls provide a space where you can be fully present, free from judgment, and work on your unique freedom journey. You’ll receive personalized support grounded in faith and tailored specifically to your needs.
life-changing
The Missing Peace isn’t just about going alcohol-free; it’s about nurturing a deeper relationship with Jesus. We believe in Romans 12:2 – 'be transformed by the renewing of your mind.'
Our Mission:
Transformation Through Faith
You’ll have access to a members-only space within our Circle platform—a lifeline of faith, support, and genuine connection with like-minded women walking the same journey.
Private TMP Space:
Beyond coaching, you’ll be welcomed into our exclusive community, where women like you offer ongoing encouragement, support, and sisterhood. Your community membership is included when you join TMP.
Exclusive BJDW Community Membership:
You’ll get access to Christy or Meade each week targeting the areas where you need the most support. Whether you can attend live or need to catch the recording, every session offers transformative insights.
Weekly Deep-Dive Coaching Calls:
What You'll Receive Inside TMP:
“You both have created an environment where I feel safe and held. It’s humbling to be able to be vulnerable.”
“I love TMP. It’s been the perfect fit for me. I needed a group where I could discuss faith alongside my journey of giving up alcohol, and TMP provides exactly that. Can I get a hallelujah on that!”
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For just $197/month with a three-month commitment, you are investing in lasting transformation, not just a temporary fix.
After your initial three months, you'll have the flexibility to continue at a reduced rate or transition to a community membership at $27/month—whichever best suits your needs and growth!
your investment:
Lasting Transformation for $197/Month
Meet Christy & Meade, Your Coaches
Hi, I’m Christy, author of Love Life Sober: A 40-Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind. I’m a senior sobriety coach helping women redefine their relationship with alcohol. As co-host of But Jesus Drank Wine, I blend faith, neuroscience, and practical steps to empower transformation. Join me to rediscover joy, purpose, and a life beyond nightly drinking.
Senior Coach & Co-Founder of “But Jesus Drank Wine” and The Missing Peace
Christy
Hi, I’m Meade! I’m a certified coach, writer, speaker, ministry leader and podcast co-host of “But Jesus Drank Wine” Podcast and Community. I’m also a co-founder of, The Missing Peace, where I inspire others to curiosity and freedom around the alcohol habit that’s keeping them stuck, so that they can re-discover their God-created self and live a life imbued with purpose, joy and peace.
Senior Coach & Co-Founder of “But Jesus Drank Wine” and The Missing Peace
Meade
Born and raised in Los Angeles, my career began in law after graduating from the University of Southern California and the Pepperdine University School of Law. After passing the California bar exam, I moved to London, where I held roles in law, public relations, and business development—including working for the UK Parliament and founding a popular website for American expat women.
But it wasn’t until I made the life-changing decision to choose sobriety that I discovered my true calling. What started as a personal journey soon grew into a passion for helping other women struggling with alcohol. The experience of walking through my own battles has shaped my belief that lasting freedom is possible for everyone—with the right support.
my journey
Christy
As the author of LOVE LIFE SOBER: A 40-DAY ALCOHOL FAST TO REDISCOVER YOUR JOY, IMPROVE YOUR HEALTH, AND RENEW YOUR MIND, published by Penguin Random House, I’ve shared my story and the practical steps to help women renew their lives. My book has become a resource for women seeking more than just sobriety—a total transformation of mind, body, and spirit.
In addition to my role as a senior sobriety coach, I’m a co-host of the But Jesus Drank Wine Podcast, where we candidly talk about the intersection of faith, sobriety, and life’s complexities. I’ve had the privilege of helping women across the US and UK transform their relationships with alcohol using a powerful blend of faith, neuroscience, and practical coaching.
My Passion & Credentials
I live in Surrey, England with my husband, our two children—Ella and Carter—and our cavapoo, Copper. When I’m not coaching or podcasting, you’ll likely find me spending time with my family, writing, playing any racquet sport, or enjoying walks in the British countryside.
I believe that with faith and the right tools, anyone can break free from alcohol and rediscover the joy they were meant to experience. I can’t wait to walk this journey with you and watch you step into the freedom that’s waiting for you.
On a Personal Note
Meade Holland Shirley is a freedom-from-alcohol coach, co-founder of the But Jesus Drank Wine (BJDW) community ministry, soon-to-be author of I’m Not Sober, I’m Free, captivating speaker, and co-host of the hit podcast “But Jesus Drank Wine” and Other Stories That Kept Us Stuck.
A former pharmaceutical sales rep and stay-at-home mom, Meade looked like she had it all together. But behind the glittery exterior, she felt stuck in a “nightly-ish” wine habit that no longer aligned with the life she wanted. Her picture-perfect world had lost its shine—until one day, she realized the issue wasn’t really the drinking. It was the thinking.
That aha moment changed everything.
With the help of a non-traditional approach to breaking up with alcohol, Meade addressed the root cause of her drinking: the beliefs and stories keeping her stuck. She ditched the shame, walked away from “mommy wine culture,” and stepped into effortless freedom as a non-drinker—no rock bottom required.
Today, Meade is a senior certified coach, the creator of the Change-Your-Thinking-to-Change-Your-Drinking method, and the visionary behind the Missing P.E.A.C.E. framework. As co-founder of the BJDW community ministry, she’s building loving, Spirit-led spaces for women to find truth, freedom, and identity beyond the lies that keep them stuck. Her compassionate, faith-filled, and judgment-free approach has helped thousands of women trade in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and overdrinking for lives of peace, purpose, and joy.
She’s known for combining deep heart work with real talk—and for helping women walk boldly into the freedom they were made for.
Meade lives just outside of Atlanta with her husband, their three kids (16, 14, and 10), and their golden retriever, Tinsley. She loves Jesus, the beach, UVA men’s basketball, The Dave Matthews Band, and binge-watching The Chosen.
my journey
Meade
why we created the missing pEAce
True freedom comes when not drinking feels totally effortless, and everything you love doing is even more enjoyable without alcohol. By renewing our minds and rewiring the conditioned responses of our bodies, we can make real change around the alcohol habit that is keeping us stuck. However, to experience lasting change—and the freedom, peace, and joy we crave—we must address our whole selves – mind, body and soul.
Join The Missing Peace small-group coaching for a completely unique approach to finding lasting change around alcohol. No more spinning your wheels searching for that one last missing piece of the stuck-in-the-drinking cycle puzzle that will finally set you free. Because the missing “peace” you crave isn’t actually found in a thing, a quick solution for change or merely as a result of changing the habit – it’s found in a Person, the Person who is Peace – Jesus.